\u201cHelping, Fixing, Serving\u201d<\/p>\n
John 12:1-8<\/p>\n
Chilmark Community Church<\/p>\n
August 23, 2015<\/p>\n
Rev. Vicky Hanjian<\/p>\n
Many years ago my Sunday School teaching partner and I were preparing for our 4th<\/sup> grade class. That year we were blessed with 8 boys between the ages of 8 and 10. The lesson that morning had to do with the story of Jesus washing the disciples\u2019 feet. So we decided to invite the kids to have the experience of having their feet washed and then of washing each others\u2019 feet. As the lesson progressed, we got to the point of filling a large basin with water and my partner asked who would like to be first?<\/p>\n Almost a though a secret signal had been given, 8 pairs of feet were withdrawn, pulled back under the chair rungs – – no willing volunteers. So my friend Ila and I were left with no alternative but to wash each other\u2019s feet and demonstrate what the lesson was about.<\/p>\n We took a few minutes to do this and as we looked around the room, those little guys were paying attention! So we offered the invitation again. This time one or two feet were very tentatively extended beyond the rungs of the chairs. Then one pair of sneakers came off followed by a pair of socks – – and then another and another. One by one, the kids extended their feet to see what it would feel like to have their feet washed. Gradually, they experimented with washing each other\u2019s feet with a lot of giggling and \u201coooooh phew!\u201d By the end of the class we all had clean feet and we had all learned something about what it feels like to have someone kneel in front of us and serve us in a profoundly simple and symbolic act.<\/p>\n We have two very brief images of service in today\u2019s text. Jesus has returned to Bethany for a visit at the home of his dear friends, Mary and Martha and their brother Lazarus. They have prepared a dinner party for him. The words of the story are sparse: \u201cMartha served\u201d\u2026\u2026\u2026Mary took a pound of expensive perfumed ointment, cleansed Jesus\u2019 feet and wiped them, not with a towel, but with her hair.<\/p>\n The images of the meal and the foot washing are repeated again in the later story of Jesus sharing his final meal with his friends – and washing their feet. In the later story it is Jesus who serves and washes.<\/p>\n Today\u2019s story reaches the senses: the smell of lamb and grains roasting on the fire; the scent of perfume filling the house; the intimacy of Mary\u2019s physical touch; the feel of soft hair. It\u2019s a sensual story. It is also a story of contrasts. Death and life are present. Lazarus is newly restored, alive, from his tomb where Jesus was warned of the terrible stench he would encounter there. Jesus is on his way to his own tomb \u2013 fragrantly perfumed. Mary and Martha are extravagant in their meal preparations and the bathing of Jesus feet. Judas kind of sulks in the corner worrying about the expense.<\/p>\n There is a two-word sentence in the story that catches the eye: \u201cMartha served.\u201d Serving is what the sisters knew how to do.<\/p>\n A number of years ago, Naomi Remen authored an article in the Noetic Sciences Review titled \u201cIn The Service of Life\u201d. She wrote: \u201cIn recent years, the question \u2018how can I help?\u2019 has become meaningful for many people. But perhaps there is a deeper question we might consider. Perhaps the real question is not \u2018How can I help\u2019 but rather \u2018How can I serve?\u2019<\/i> There is a difference between helping and fixing and serving.<\/p>\n Richard Rohr, in his book \u201cWhat the Mystics Know\u201d writes: After decades of counseling, pastoring, and clumsy attempts at helping other people, I am coming to a not so obvious but compelling conclusion: Much of our helping is like hoping for first class accommodations on the Titanic. It feels good at the moment, but it is going nowhere. The big tear in the hull is not addressed, and we are surprised when people drown, complain, or resort to life boats. Most of the people I have tried to fix still need fixing. The situation changed, but the core was never touched.<\/i><\/p>\n Serving is different than helping. Remen suggests that people tend to feel a sense of inequality when they are helped. The helper may feel good, but the one who is helped may feel diminished in some way. We heard this message clearly a number of years ago when we spent some time on the Lakota Reservations in South Dakota. The tribes told stories about how they had been \u201chelped\u201d by the US government in the form of surplus food. They had been \u201chelped\u201d by missionaries who wanted to convert them to Christianity. They had been \u201chelped\u201d by well meaning groups who sent them boxes of used clothing. But through all this helping, their health, their spiritual traditions and their strength and dignity as a tribal people were all seriously diminished. The integrity and wholeness of tribal life was eroded by the help that was extended to them. To paraphrase Rohr, all that helping and fixing never reached the core. Life on the reservations changed, but the deepest core of life was never touched in a way that would have lead to wholeness in the relationship between the Lakota people the white population.<\/p>\n Service, on the other hand, is a relationship between equals. Helping incurs a subtle kind of indebtedness. Serving has a mutuality about it. There is no indebtedness. In a serving relationship, I am served just as much as the person I am serving. When I help, I have a feeling satisfaction that I have done something good. When I serve, I feel gratitude. These are two very different things.<\/p>\n Serving is also different from fixing. Fixing arises out of seeing the world or other persons as broken. Naomi Remen writes: \u201cWhen I fix another person, I see them as broken and their brokenness requires me to act. When I fix, I do not see the wholeness in the other person or trust the integrity of the life in them. Fixing is a form of judgment about the brokenness of the other person.<\/i><\/p>\n When I think of images of serving, one that comes to mind is hospice work. When a hospice worker receives an assignment, it is an assignment to serve. In the work of attending to the needs of the dying and to the needs of the family, a hospice worker cannot fix anything \u2013nor can he or she really help. In hospice work there is no fixing or helping – – only service – – the service of wise and compassionate presence – – a service that addresses and acknowledges the strength and integrity of the family and the one who is dying. Hospice seeks to serve the wholeness in the life of the client and the family as death draws near.<\/p>\n The images of Jesus and his friends in the gospel are images of service. Mary breaks a flask of perfumed ointment to sooth and cleanse Jesus\u2019 feet. She can fix nothing. Her act of service doesn\u2019t help anything. Jesus already knows his end is imminent. Nothing can fix or help the outcome. There is a mystery in Mary\u2019s service that recognizes the integrity and wholeness of Jesus, of work, of his purpose.<\/p>\n Judas, on the other hand, is a helper and a fixer – – sell the ointment – -help the poor. He has a somewhat self righteous tone about him and the little editorial comment suggests that his motives aren\u2019t really all that pure.<\/p>\n Later on in John\u2019s gospel Jesus is again in the company of friends. This time he is the one with the basin and towel. He extends to his friends the hospitality of serving them by preparing to wash their feet. He comes first to Peter \u2013 and Peter resists. He is incredulous at the idea of Jesus washing his feet and he refuses. Jesus responds to him: \u201cunless I wash you, you have no part in me.\u201d And Peter submits to being served by Jesus. Jesus doesn\u2019t fix anything about Peter. We know this because of the way the story unfolds after Jesus is arrested. But Jesus sees something of the inherent worth \u2013 indeed the holiness \u2013 in Peter. Unless Peter allowed himself to be served by Jesus, Peter would not be able to live out a life of service.<\/p>\n Jesus aligned himself with the wholeness that he saw in each life he touched. He saw that wholeness in each human being waiting to be restored and he acted in service to that wholeness.<\/p>\n When we see this about Jesus, we can understand a little bit more about his willing attitude when Mary anointed his feet and Martha served him a meal. In the face of the unfixable that lay ahead of them all, it was incredibly important that Mary and Martha be able to serve by their devotion and their friendship and their presence in Jesus\u2019 life. When this story is juxtaposed with the later story of Jesus washing his friends\u2019 feet, we see that life in Christ is not so much a life of fixing and helping – – or of being fixed or helped. Rather life in Christ is a life of serving and being served.<\/p>\n Through his life and death and resurrection, Jesus serves us by recognizing the wholeness and the holiness that resides in each one of us. He does not relate to us as needy, or broken or weak. Rather he serves us by honoring our strength and calling forth the best from us. If his purpose were to help us or fix us, he would only make us weaker. But Jesus calls us from weakness to strength. His loving service to us empowers us – – makes us strong.<\/p>\n Martha served. Mary served. Jesus serves. After Jesus had washed his friends\u2019 feet he said to them \u201cDo you know what I have done to you? You call me teacher and Lord \u2013and you are right for that is what I am. So \u2013 if I your Lord have washed your feet, you ought also to wash one another\u2019s feet. For I have set you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.\u201d<\/p>\n So \u2013 the subtle call seems clear. We are called to lives of serving and lives of being served. We all know something about what this means because we live in a community that does this as part of its way of being in the world. The story just helps us do the fine tuning so that we can be more effective. May we enter the coming week with our eyes and ears and hearts wide open to whatever our servant ministry calls us to do and be in the name of God. AMEN.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cHelping, Fixing, Serving\u201d John 12:1-8 Chilmark Community Church August 23, 2015 Rev. 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